New Method ICC Inner Knowledge of Coaching
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The first needs such as basic or physiological were covered. These are the ones inherent in every person and basic for the survival of the individual such as breathing, dressing, feeding, etc.
Then I began to study, to make things right at home. I started to work because I wanted to be independent, also to understand myself spiritually with everything that had happened to me in a short space of my life. These needs were for security.
I investigated and inquired about what I liked. I began to meet professionals and started to get to know people; affection was created. These were the social needs.
The take-off was to create my books, to explain everything I liked by transforming it into words, being able to share everything I discovered. I was respected, I had recognition and esteem for people.
And finally my main need for self-realization is to create a method in which people can help themselves, grow and stand on their own feet: Inner Knowledge Coaching.
That is what I have been preparing and studying for all these years. It is where I wanted to get, that people accept themselves without prejudice, valuing themselves and not being afraid of themselves. Seeing that every quality is a virtue and what we have often been told is a defect, well worked can serve as a quality or distraction to achieve our goal. But above all, let's not harm ourselves or let others be harmed by it.
When I was researching there were many types of coaching, but only some were talked about and the others were overlooked; since they were not commercial or given the necessary importance.
But each one in its own style has to have the same value, even if it is really very difficult or almost impossible to explain or to get to value it, because of the time or the dedication it takes.
It is like a gemologist who cuts a diamond; its value is for a lifetime. Or someone who makes something to fit you and you love it, has known how to take your essence in a conversation and translate it into a few conversations. He has captured the essence of what you need, what he would be is a lifelong tailor, for example. He who makes you something and you don't get tired of wearing it, you would never take it off. This is the sector of true craftsmen, who have already lost their way and are almost gone.
So for me, there is no better or worse coaching but it depends on what you need in each moment or the value it will bring to your life.
Thanks to the information and communication technologies, the internet and great communicators that exist today, techniques that have always existed and that can help you are becoming known.
We all shine in something, what you have to find is that you shine, make yourself strong and enjoy it.
What I am going to explain to you are simple things that exist around you, so that you can use them, understand them better, to live the day to day with total comfort taking better advantage of the moments.
At no time do they have to be something rigid, you have to make them flexible, generating them and using them according to the intuition that you will be developing.
This is the basic concept that you will always perceive in the series of Inner Knowledge Coaching books.
Chapter 3- Sorry, but don't forget.
We are in a society where they spend all day saying that we have to forgive and forget. Which, logically and coherently, is not the right thing to do.
What is the right thing to do? We have to learn to forgive ourselves, we have to learn to forget about toxic people, to be able to leave them behind, to be able to leave relationships, or if it is at work, not to be affected or disturbed and to be able to reconcile our working life with them.
But why do people spend all their time saying forgive and forget?
Would you tell a child you see putting his hands in the socket or on the fire and burning, to repeat the action each time, or would you put your hand in the fire each time to burn? That would be an abuse. The same thing is repeating that situation over and over again on an emotional level.
Chemistry exists, it is something that cannot be avoided, you like a person or you don't like him, you are attracted to him or not, you feel it or you don't feel it. It depends on the area that you have to deal with the situation; you will have to make a decision or another.
Logically, if it is in the work environment, you have to profile it, treat it from a partner's point of view because it is not your friend. You are only going to deal with that person for a few hours. You have to learn to be sociable and not let their attitude bother you, not let their way of acting affect you, putting walls between you and that person.
Family is supposed to be our safe haven; however, many times it can be the place where we find the deepest pain. If it is in a direct family setting and it is a relative of yours, logically I advise you to first have a conversation with that person. If you do not reach a good conclusion and you do not achieve anything, cut that person off and distance yourself.
If the relative in question is your partner or husband, the conversation is logically the couple's sphere first, so that he can see how you feel and how that person treats you.
Likewise, if the situation continues, try to see as little as possible of the person who is causing the abuse, or of the people, because otherwise the relationship will end up suffering and possibly breaking up. The problem here is that many times breakups are caused by third parties and a large part of them are caused by the family.
The toxicity of people makes, that when they are cowards above all, they never attack one alone, but they do it together supporting each other. That is why you do not have to forget the first offense they have done to you, but learn from it, overcome it and from there move forward in your life without giving it importance.
Do not keep grudges because you are in pain, but you are ignorant; since once you are over it, if you are not in pain, it bothers them more.
But it is logical that you cannot be sitting down for dinner or lunch with someone that is always disrespecting you. And if you do it just for work, and because there is no other choice, under very strict rules and guidelines in which you control the situation and do not affect you.
Many times there are toxic relationships, because the desire to fulfill social roles can lead us to fall into the hands of toxic people. They appear because of insecurity, low self-esteem, or because society expects you to play certain roles: to get married, to have children, a partner, etc.